The origins of “fruit” as slang for gay men are complex and unfortunately rooted in negativity. While the exact origin is unclear, several theories suggest its emergence from discriminatory attitudes:
Through my research, as limited as it may be I found some pretty interesting things I knew nothing about.
i.e. The Fruit Machine: The Homosexual Detector.
Yes, yes it is a real thing.
Created by Frank Robert Wake to help identify gay men who were referred to as ( Fruits ) during the 50’s and 60’s in a campaign to eliminate all gay men from the civil service.
This is a complete assumption on my part! Is this where the term Gaydar is derived? Whaaaat!?
What a freakin treat. idiots.
I also found a 1998 play on the Fruit Machine Project link below.
A documentary film by Sarah Fodey, link below
Though, as far as where the derogatory term ( fruit ) was first used seems to be unknown. There are a lot of stories and assumptions of when and where, but nothing that could be confidently nailed to a time, place, and who.
Most of my finding seems to point to Britain as far back as the 19th century. IDK and who knows if we will ever know.
I used to think that “Owning” derogatory words would minimize the effect and hold on us ‘ as the victim of the slang ‘ but I am finding that it’s probably a little more complicated than I thought it was.